My blog friend over at Half Girl Half Teacup posted today about a common concern of bloggers, best summarized by “Who’s reading this stuff anyway?” We want people to read our words. We’ve put a little piece of our soul into each post. Sometimes, we want to share some pretty deep and intense thoughts or recollections, and when moved by that spirit, we can sometimes feel stifled by the fact that our family, friends, in-laws and co-workers might be reading these words. I’ve shared some personal things about depression, family, parenthood, divorce, loss, and love. I’ve shared pain and poetry. I’ve shared some of my skeletons.
There’s more I want to share, and sometimes I hesitate. I hesitate because I fear the judgement of people who know me. If they really know me, they know that what I share, what I have experienced has helped me become who I am. We are not who we were in our pasts; we are shaped by our past experiences, and by our past choices, wise or otherwise. In blogs, we hang our skeletons on fenceposts, and let whoever drives by see, stop, ponder. That road is public – it might be our own driveway, or it might be an inaccessible trail at the back of beyond. Anyone who finds it can see those bones. As I commented on Jess’ post, there is no shame in my life, my past (remarkable and regretful as some of it is), or my thoughts – no shame in me. So there’s no reason for anyone NOT to see my words, to see those bones. If they judge in some negative fashion, that speaks about them, not about me. My bones are out there, brightening in the sun.
Quote of the day: “Every heart has its own skeletons.” — Leo Tolstoy
Daily gratitudes:
The graphics on the 1st Bank display downtown
A stubborn cricket outside the back door
MKL
The promise of bacon
An orange glow at sunset
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October 12, 2015 at 9:12 pm
Steve Bailey Art
I share your thoughts about some of the things I have written. Perhaps a nom de plume would work for us? However, I applaud your words of having no real secrets. If someone judges you harshly, then it’s their loss, not yours. Keep on plugging!
October 13, 2015 at 6:46 pm
Seasweetie
Thanks for your comment and encouragement, Steve – I’ve thought about the nom de plume as well!
October 13, 2015 at 12:11 am
tellmeastorymick
Reblogged this on Keep Calm & Write Something and commented:
Great post on blogging our bones out for the world to see, by Seasweetie’s Pages. It’s a good point that we really don’t know if anyone’s reading any of our words. It is, I fear, the plight of the writer.
Thanks for the post, Amy.
October 13, 2015 at 6:45 pm
Seasweetie
Any time, Mick!
October 13, 2015 at 1:15 pm
Ruthie
Hi, I think it was Kim’s blog from So Many Places that I found you. I really enjoy reading your Blog because it is “Real”. You are very articulate, brave, humble, and I love the quotes and daily gratitudes.
October 13, 2015 at 6:45 pm
Seasweetie
Thank you so much, Ruthie! I’m glad you enjoy it. I’ve loved Kim’s blog – she’s truly an inspiration to live life with passion. Can’t wait to see how Juniper grows up!