The discussion about how we were all so focused on saying prayers for the citizens of Parls, and yet not for the citizens of other terrorist attacks in 2015 gave me pause. I feel no less sorrow for victims of terrorist attacks in Beirut, Syria, Thailand, or yesterday’s attack in Nigeria than I feel for those in France. And I feel the pain of those who suffer ongoing terrorism in countries such as Rwanda and people such as the Yadizis. As an empath, I have had to learn how to shield myself from my own feelings about these world events, and to some extent, from stories about poignant tragedies and disasters, while at the same time immersing myself in those stories until I can comprehend them, instead of just feel them. Perhaps that doesn’t make sense, but that’s how I am.
The uproar about our world’s lack of caring for other countries suffering similar attacks made me recognize (again) how our perception is driven by the media. Had we had minute-by-minute coverage on CNN about the Beirut attack and its aftermath, swarms of reporters heading to the scene immediately, and interviews with survivors and those who lost loved ones, perhaps our own sympathies would have been equaled stirred. But that’s not what happened. That’s not what happened with the terrorist attack in Yola, Nigeria yesterday. That same kind of intense media scrutiny might have generated similar sympathies. So yes, the media partially responsible for our reaction. It’s the only way we know about what’s going on thousands of miles away. In the early 19th century, it would have taken weeks or months to learn about a tragedy within a family if one branch were far distant. I don’t doubt that people lived from birth to death without knowing about atrocities committed on other continents.
(I will say here that the media did a good job of covering the horrific attack on the school in Kenya last April, and that my spirit was heavy with pain for the victims of that tragedy.)
Paris is a city that has been much more romanticized by western civilization than Beirut, Yola, Aleppo, or Kunduz. It has been the setting for films, novels, advertisements, vacations, and dreams, much more often than other cities that have undergone the trauma of terrorism, and that is another reason that last week’s events resonated more with many than did the other acts of terror. That doesn’t make it any more or less important. It just puts it more to the forefront of our personal vision. Had I known someone that had spent time in Beirut and fallen in love with it and shared that feeling with me, I don’t doubt that I would be more attuned to the daily events there. But, unfortunately, I don’t.
I appreciate the discussion about why we as a society did not seem to care as much about the other countries that were victims of violence last week and earlier in the year, and in the years past. It has made me recognize that I want to be more aware of what’s happening in the world, of the places that need the strings of my spirit to reach out with love and support across the miles. That’s now something I am committed to doing. It doesn’t minimize my feelings of empathy for Parisians, but it does make my empathy for other countries shine.
Like many, I wish there was more I could do. I am just one person. But all of us are just individuals. If we approach each other with empathy and love, perhaps all of our feelings of compassion combined can make a difference. I hope.
Lafayette, Colorado.
Quote of the day: “When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” — Jimi Hendrix
Daily gratitudes:
Confirmation that my pregnancy radar is still functioning (no, I”M not pregnant)
MKL
Getting things done
Heightened awareness
Talks with Kelsea who will be coming home on Tuesday!
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November 19, 2015 at 7:37 am
Tales and Travels of the Tin Man
RACE……….is the most important discussion we need to have in the United States of America. I believe that race and greed (fear) are the driving factors in this country. It is best that the rest of my feeling are kept to myself. I appreciate your broaching this subject, because it is worthy of discussion.
November 19, 2015 at 7:45 am
Seasweetie
That’s interesting, Tin Man. I totally agree with greed being a key driving force in this country, and one that angers me. Race is indeed a discussion we need to have. As a middle class, white woman of a certain age from the South , I have thought a lot about race my whole life, and have yet to make sense of how divisive it is.
November 19, 2015 at 4:51 pm
tellmeastorymick
Well said. It’s a flaw in our culture that we notice the big European cities and our own first. I feel like this is changing some with the spread of social media and other forms of sharing news that are less biased, perhaps, than the Media.
November 19, 2015 at 5:20 pm
Seasweetie
I agree. I just wish social media was a little less angry and mean about it. There’s no need for meanness when the goal is just to open the eyes of others.
November 20, 2015 at 11:04 am
So Does That Mean I'm Southern
You are so right